Do you remember when we were kids and our parents or grandparents would always talk about their community of mom friends? How doing life with others came naturally for them? I remember growing up with my aunts and cousins always around, with neighborhood friends in and out of our house—it was always bustling with people. Sunday morning breakfast at my Aunt's with a table full of cousins and family members in and out of the house. My mom could call on a neighbor or friend to come hang out or help at a moment’s notice.

But it just isn't like that now.

With moms working, having careers and the hustle and bustle of the world, that doesn't exist for our generation.

Motherhood today can feel isolating.

Raising children is beautiful, but it can also be lonely, especially when you’re trying to instill strong faith values in a world that often pushes against them. As Christian moms, we want to raise our children to know and love God, but the truth is, we weren’t meant to do this alone.

I’ve always felt different—like I didn’t quite fit in.

I was never a party girl, never cared for alcohol, and was always hyper-aware of my surroundings (hello, trauma!).

In my twenties, that made friendships difficult. I wasn’t drawn to the same things as my peers, and as a result, I often felt like the odd one out.

Then, in my mid-thirties, I became a mom. Finally, I had something in common with other women—I could talk about sleepless nights, baby milestones, and the joys and struggles of raising a child.

But as my daughter grew and we became more intentional about parenting—monitoring what she watched on TV, what she listened to, and who she was allowed around—I started noticing shifts in my friendships. The decisions we made, the boundaries we set, and the values we prioritized were different from many of the people around us. We don’t do Halloween. Christmas in our home is about Jesus, not Santa. Most of my friends aren’t believers, so as my daughter grew, suddenly, I felt like an outsider again.

Within my own family, despite our children being close in age, we approach things so differently that it occasionally leads to tension and challenges. I was thrilled for my daughter to have cousins her age and experience a bit of what we had as kids, but that's not how it turned out. As they grow up, the differences have become more challenging to navigate. I love my siblings very much, but I have realized that our path's are different.

That’s why finding other moms who share my values has been so important—not just for my daughter, but for my own well-being.

Raising a child in faith is hard enough;

doing it without a support system is even harder.

One day, my daughter was crying in the backseat about missing some of her old daycare friends. We were on our way to the library in the middle of the week, and she was feeling lonely. My mama heart broke into pieces listening to her sob. I know that ache, that lonely feeling. In that moment, I prayed.

"Jesus, is homeschooling really what You want for us? Make it clear, ease my mama heart. Put the right people in our lives—people we can homeschool with, who have faith, who we can do life with together. Ease her loneliness, ease mine."

That day, we were trying out a new library. When we walked into the kids’ area, I noticed another mom with her little ones—one the same age as Luci. I took a deep breath and worked up the courage to ask her if she was homeschooling, too. After all, it was the middle of the week.

She smiled and said, Yes! We started talking and quickly realized we were meant to find each other. She had also been a teacher, had just resigned, and was homeschooling. She also went to church and was looking for like-minded families to do life with.

God had never answered me that quickly before.

It was incredibly comforting to know that He was listening.

Since then, we’ve spent so much time together—going to the aquarium, the park, the library, and having frequent playdates. One day, she told me about a Christian homeschool co-op they attended on Fridays and invited us to check it out. Luci is incredibly shy, but when we visited the co-op that day, she opened right up. She let other kids come up and talk to her, engaged in conversation and was even running around playing with some of them. Something she has never done before.

It just fit—it felt like home.

Asking God for direction and discernment is the easy part.

Listening and following—that’s the hard part.

I even left my church because I didn’t feel like my tribe was there. The mom groups didn’t feel relatable, and I longed for deeper connections with like-minded families.

But when God calls you to something—when He pursues you and your purpose—it becomes impossible to ignore.

Leaving my career, stepping away from the comfort of familiarity, and trusting Him to lead us has been challenging. We are still finding our way, only eight months into homeschooling. I’ve wrestled with so many doubts along the way—wondering if I made the right choices, questioning whether I was truly equipped for this journey.

Yet, the blessings that have come from it—the people He has placed in our lives, the community He is building around us—have been undeniable. I still don’t have all the answers, but I have peace in knowing He is guiding every step.

And that is more than enough.

God never intended for us to walk through life alone. From the very beginning, He created us for relationships. Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 reminds us:

When we surround ourselves with other moms who are also striving to teach their children about Jesus, we create a network of strength and support.

It’s not just about us—our kids need godly friendships too. When our children grow up around other families who share our faith, it reinforces the values we teach at home. They see that following Jesus isn’t something we do alone;

it’s part of a bigger community.

It’s easy to feel isolated in motherhood, especially when we make choices that go against the grain. Having mom friends who share our faith keeps us accountable. They remind us why we’re choosing to raise our kids differently and encourage us to stay strong in our convictions.

Motherhood isn’t meant to be done alone. We need each other. We need friendships that encourage us, challenge us, and remind us that we’re not walking this journey by ourselves. If you’ve struggled to find community, I encourage you to pray and ask God to bring the right people into your life.

He is faithful, and He knows exactly what we need.

And if you already have those treasured mom friends, take a moment to thank God for them.

They are truly a gift.

How have mom friends and community made a difference in your life?

I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments!

Heavenly Father,

Thank You for the gift of motherhood and for the deep desire You’ve placed in our hearts to raise our children in faith. You know the loneliness that can come with this journey, the longing to find friends who share our values and our love for You. Lord, I ask that You guide us to the right people—moms who will encourage us, challenge us, and walk this path alongside us. Help us to be courageous in reaching out and open to the relationships You place in our lives.

Strengthen us in the moments when we feel like we don’t belong, reminding us that we are never alone because You are always with us. Thank You for the friendships You have already blessed us with, and for the ones You are still preparing for us. May we lean into community, lift each other up, and glorify You in our parenting and friendships.

In Jesus’ name, Amen.